Our thoughts and our beliefs shape what we see to be possible for ourselves and our relationships.

If we believe that we don't deserve love, or if we think that relationships can only be so good, we have capped ourselves. Because we only act on what we believe to be true and possible.

The problem is, we're really bad at predicting what is actually available to us, what we could ask for, what we could take action on or what we could create in our lives.

So in this module, I will teach you how to coach someone, into being able to see how their own thoughts and beliefs are limiting what's possible for them.

This doesn't happen by telling them. They have to discover it themselves. This is where the artistry comes in.

How do you help someone discover for themselves that they have limiting thoughts AND THEN help them discover for themselves what's actually possible?

That's what I'll teach you.

Why is it important to know how to coach people on emotions? Don't emotions just happen? Isn't it true that we can't control our emotions?

It's true that we can't necessarily control our emotional reactions to things.

However, our emotions come from our thoughts and our beliefs. So as we learn what triggers our emotions, we are able to then better choose how we want to respond instead of react.

The second thing I will train you in with emotions, is how to "speak the language" of emotions with your clients. We often try to "logic" our emotions but our emotions are not using the same logic as our rational mind.

So in the processes I'll be teaching you on emotions, you'll be able to help yourself and your clients tap into your emotional logic, rather than your rational logic.

In doing this, you'll be able to have a new relationship with yourself and your emotions. You'll be able to help people make peace with their more challenging emotions and be able to illuminate and expand our emotions that perhaps we want to be present more often.

This is the beginning of emotional intelligence, my friend.

This is the month we'll talk about gender, sxx, sxxuality, plsure and erotcsm.

How do I even begin to talk about how important this month is? I guess I'm hoping since you are interested in this program that you may already have some idea of just how vital these topics are.

This is also where we are starting to really dive into our area of specialty.

We don't talk about these topics in "normal" society. For most people these topics are very taboo. And since we haven't talked about them at length, in depth, to the fullest extent, there is a lot to unpack here.

The thing that I love about teaching and training on these topics is that since they aren't talked about as much, there is an enormous amount of learning and growth that's possible.

To be very clear, you could study about each of these topics individually for the rest of your life and still have more to know.

This training program is in depth, there is a lot of information to hold, and there is quite a lot to be responsible for when coaching people through these topics. That's also why I have a mentorship program so you can continue to use me as a resource, but we can talk about that after the certification is done.

Why in a relationship coaching certification program do I talk about relationships and communication last?

Because if we are not able to coach people in their limiting beliefs, stuck emotions or how that impacts how they see themselves as a relational human being, then we will fall short as relationship coaches.

Many challenges that people face in relationships start with the individual, how they are showing up and what their expectations are.

So once we get through that, then we can start to talk about what works in relation to other human beings, and how they can create agreements, set boundaries, communicate their wants needs and desires and have the mental and emotional fortitude to hear these same things from their partners.

Month five!!! Ok you've learned A LOT at this point and now it's time to practice.

My suggestion is that you be practicing with your other cohort comrades or with a practice client (I'll explain how to get a practice client at the beginning of the program).

And now it's time to practice in real time and get feedback.

The best and quickest way to learn something is to:

1) Not be afraid to be bad at it at first.

2) Be willing to receive feedback.

3) Implement that feedback the next time you practice.

4) Continue the growth cycle! 1, 2, 3!